About Me
My path…
I didn’t arrive at this work through theory.
I arrived here because I struggled.
There was abandonment. We hurt each other. Long stretches where love felt out of reach — or unsustainable when it appeared. My parents had modeled intolerance, avoidance, blame, shame, nagging, emasculation… and what did I get in my relationships? Same same but different.
Starting as young as seventeen I did what most people do:
I read all the books.
Followed the advice.
Tried to do everything “right.”
It still didn’t work.
And I never fully accepted the explanation I kept hearing: “The honeymoon phase ends, hunny. This is just how relationships go.”
I was dissatisfied. My long-term relationships — the ones I worked so hard on — still failed.
I knew something was missing. And I was the common denominator…
What I discovered
After my own failed marriage, I stopped looking for answers that sounded good — and started looking for what actually works.
I was determined to find out: did who I was being make a difference in how men showed up for me? I went on as many dates as possible & observed that I was different in every man’s presence. I began to see what the healthiest men had in common. As I healed, the kind of men showing up in my life changed. The mirror became impossible to ignore.
Over time, I saw clearly: Most people are trying to create something they were never shown how to build. I was one of them.
Not because I was incapable. But because I was never trained.
I began to learn that much of what I had inherited about relationships was the opposite of what actually creates healthy, thriving partnerships: tactics, withholding, manipulation, blame & “transactions.”
What changed everything was learning the language of femininity —softening, putting down my sword toward men & understanding how I had been misreading their intentions, then reacting in ways that disempowered both of us.
When I began to understand our complementary differences — and the words, energy, and ways of relating that either nourish or shut down connection — everything changed.
Today, I am in a relationship that is deeply connected, grounded, erotic and alive. I feel seen, chosen, cherished. His queen. He shares that he has never felt so appreciated or nourished - like a king!
Real, conscious, continuously evolving & built with the very principles I now teach.
Born in California and raised on a farm in Oregon, my journey has taken me across continents — from leading Suzuki programs in Canada, to teaching aristocracy in Dubai, to co-creating a music school in Freiburg, Germany, where I now live.
Coaching is now the center of my work and moves me to new parts of the world in ways that feel deeply aligned & meaningful.
Outside of my work, I love hiking in the Black Forest, traveling and immersing myself in different cultures, soaking in hot springs, spending time with some of the best friends in the world. And most of all, savoring slow mornings with my beloved, Philipp.
Together, we are creating a life between Europe and the United States, with a shared vision of family, depth, workshops, and a life devoted to growth.
The foundation of my work
Long before I worked in relationships, I was trained as a classical violinist through the Suzuki method from the age of four — a holistic method that supports violinist, parents & the whole human being.
By ten, I was already teaching. And what I learned & physically experienced shaped everything I do now:
Real transformation is not about information.
It’s about:
meeting someone or being met where they/you are
seeing potential clearly - the end-goal, even if they cannot
knowing just how big of steps someone can handle
building trust, resilience & presence
Being a person’s “greatness reflector” can be the greatest gift we can give
I wasn’t just teaching music. I was developing people.
That same principle now lives at the core of my work with relationships.
Then my Mission Changed…
A moment years ago changed the course of my life.
I was standing in London Drugs parking lot when I witnessed a man step out of his car, screaming truly cruel insults at someone inside. A few seconds later, his five-year-old daughter stepped out behind him.
In that instant, I understood something I have never forgotten: The relationships children witness every day shape them far more deeply than almost anything I could offer in a weekly violin lesson.
That realization became my mission.
I believe that when we transform the way we love, relate, and partner, we do more than change
our own lives. We change what the next generation experiences as normal. We interrupt painful cycles.
We model what love looks like, what respect feels like, and what becomes acceptable in the relationships
our children will one day choose for themselves.
I want that inheritance to be love, respect, truth, and emotional safety.
My vision:
A world where people feel free to be fully themselves, where love is rooted in respect, and where harmony shapes not only our relationships, but also our homes, our communities, and the future we pass on. When we elevate the way we connect, we raise the standard of human relationship for generations to come.
I leave you with this hypothetical question: If your child had a relationship exactly like yours, would you be happy for them?
